I always had trouble figuring out how to behave or what to say in public settings. Trying my best to be the nicest guy in the room, but ending up coming off aloof and arrogant.
Until I learned the fine art of chit-chat.
I had an old Army buddy who was a master at chit-chat. He was a lawyer, of course. Anyway he'd drag me to parties, take me by the arm and work the room. It was an amazing show. Listening to his conversations and watching his body language I learned how to be non-offensive and how it was ok to talk about nothing important at all.
And that was my biggest huddle; learning that most people in social settings don't want to be serious. That that wasn't the point.
Until I learned the fine art of chit-chat.
I had an old Army buddy who was a master at chit-chat. He was a lawyer, of course. Anyway he'd drag me to parties, take me by the arm and work the room. It was an amazing show. Listening to his conversations and watching his body language I learned how to be non-offensive and how it was ok to talk about nothing important at all.
And that was my biggest huddle; learning that most people in social settings don't want to be serious. That that wasn't the point.